I had a threesome. It's still sometimes hard for me to believe and people are generally shocked when I tell them. After all, I don't come across as "that type of girl," whatever that means. But here's the type of girl I am : I'm open-minded, nonjudgmental, curious, and yes — sexual. I'm someone who holds back in bed, and someone who no longer wants to. While I never expected to actually participate in a threesome, I'll admit it was something I had thought about and even fantasized about, as I think many of us do yes, even us women.

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Thirty was a milestone birthday, and it required a gift of some significance. Upping the stakes further, it would be her first birthday since we tied the knot. I got messages like this every once in a while, but this one was particularly flirty—the sign-off mentioning that I should look her up if I ever happened to be in Toronto. In the next set of exchanges, Carla mentioned her high sex drive and penchant for novelty. A few days later, she attached some pictures. The shots were of a tall, beautiful, slender yet curvaceous brunette in various states of undress. Until suddenly, it did.


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Marta K. When she found herself in bed with a married couple, she learned a lot about how she defines good sex. Here, Marta tells her story. When I was young, I was all about fairytale-type love. I thought there was only one person for me and that I'd be with them forever.



Mariella Frostrup says he should mistrust the friend, not his wife If you have a dilemma, send a brief email to mariella. A mutual friend joked that she probably spent more time in hotel rooms than in her own bedroom when she was younger. We have had some bad arguments about it. This has soured what was otherwise a good marriage. A relationship as a compromise or half-formed thing is anathema to most young people, who view the emotional world as a place of emphatic action ruled by prevailing passions far stronger than empathy or irrationality.